Some key conceptions from Dr. Daniel Siegel’s speech and beyond (Happily Family Conference 2020) 1. Connecting with kids and helping them cope in uncertain times 2. Racial and justice issues 3. If it makes sense in our own personal childhood lives, subjective experience 4. Child development, resilience, compassion, creativity, empathy, Cultivate gratitude 5. Compass guiding us—internal compass guidance 6. MWE mwe relationship 7. Internal presence, communication, integration, putting the words regarding the emotions 8. Validating the emotions, attune it 9. Emotion is wordless , Non verbal vs. verbal 10. Soothing somebody who needs emotional support, this person will NOT feel alone 11. emotion is about relationship, emotional regulation 12. NOT use a single word to solve a problem 13. Be with the feelings, make sense of your life 14. Name and or tame it, shift, avoid say “it is ok”, to name the emotion helps to calm down, window of tolerance, 15. Discipline is to teach, a role model, timeout should not be used as a punishment 16. Responsibility, accountability 17. Yes brain, No brain, state of present, mindset, power of pause (integrated brains) 18. Kindness, compassion, integration, self is not body, body is not mind, brain is not mind 19. The wheel of awareness: a. 5 main senses: taste, touch, sight, hearing, and smell b. 6th sense: gut sensations, breathing/respiratory, heart, muscles, bones, blood, etc c. 7th sense: mental activities such as thoughts, feelings, memories, beliefs, emotions, images, plans, and anything else on your mind. d. 8th sense: interconnectedness, the ability to connect to yourself, your neighbors, all other humans, plants, and Planet Earth as a whole, bringing compassion and kindness to others and to yourself. 20. Mindfulness, life is empty? Society is selfish? Collaborative being, Daniel Siegel博士的演讲要点以及延展知识点 (2020年幸福家庭研讨会) 1.与孩子建立联系并帮助他们应对动荡的时期 2.种族与社会正义问题 3.是否在我们自己的童年生活中有意义,主观体验 4.儿童发展,韧性,同情心,创造力,同理心,培养感恩 5.指南针引导我们—内部情绪指南针指导 6. MWE mwe关系 7.内部存在,沟通,融合,表达有关情感的文字 8.认可情绪,调和情绪 9.情感不是完全用语言表达的 10.非语言(肢体语言等)对语言 11.抚慰需要情感支持的人,这个人不会感到孤独 12.情绪是关于关系,情绪调节的 13.不要用一个词来解决问题 14.保持感情,使生活有意义 15.命名情感或驯服情感,表帅,静思还是罚站呢?避免说“没事儿” 16.管教是要教的过程,是做榜样,不应该将超时作为惩罚 17.责任心,能够观察情感,说是的大脑,说不的大脑,当前状态(当下) 18.善良,同情,融合,自我不是身体,身体不是心灵,大脑不是心灵 19.意识轮:(请见上页图) a. 5种主要感官:味觉,触觉,视觉,听觉和气味 b. 第六感:肠道感觉,呼吸/呼吸,心脏,肌肉,骨骼,血液等 c. 第七感:思想,情感,记忆,信念,情感,图像,计划等精神活动。 d. 第八感:相互联系,能够与自己,邻居,所有其他人类,植物以及整个地球联系在一起,从而为他人和自己带来同情和善良。 20.感知情绪/观察生活, 生活是空虚的吗, 社会是自私的吗,人类的协同生存
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